Relationships
Working on a relationship happens in two parts. The first part is working on ourselves. We will talk about that. The second part is working on how we relate to others, particularly our partners. We use the Gottman Method as the basis for couples therapy and include individual work as needed.
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The Gottman Relationship Checkup is based on over 40 years of research by Dr. John Gottman. It is an in-depth questionnaire about friendship, intimacy, emotions, conflict, values, and trust, as well as parenting, housework, finances, individual areas of concern, and more.
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The checkup automatically scores a relationship’s strengths and challenges and provides specific recommendations for intervention and is a valuable tool for moving your relationship forward.
A relationship-enhancing
(or saving) reading list
There are a number of books that we tend to recommend on the topic of relationships, and typically do so as topics come up in therapy, but here are a few useful books of general interest:
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Passionate Marriage: Keeping Love & Intimacy Alive in Committed Relationships, David Schnarch
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Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love, Sue Johnson
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Happy Together: Using the Science of Positive Psychology to Build Love that Lasts, Suzann Pileggi and James O. Pawelski
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Designer Relationships: A Guide to Happy Monogamy, Positive Polyamory, and Optimistic Open Relationships, Mark A. Michaels and Patricia Johnson
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The Ultimate Guide to Seduction & Foreplay: Techniques and Strategies for Mind-Blowing Sex, Jessica O'Reilly and Marla Renee Stewart
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She Comes First: the thinking man's guide to pleasuring a woman, Ian Kerner
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